Introducing Sebastian (and how you can help us out)…

And now the moment you’ve all been waiting for!  Here is our little guy!!

(More pictures at the bottom of the post)

We are so over the moon in love with this precious boy!!  As you can see he is a spunky and happy go lucky guy.  We have loved getting home and exploring our new surroundings.  He enjoys running from room to room and playing with all his new toys.  He is also 100% toddler and does NOT love going to sleep.  As I write this he cracking himself up and is doing seat drops in his pack n play to avoid his nap.  We will see if sleep happens :/  He really has settled in well and made a seamless transition to his new home.  We continue to learn all about the things he loves (sweet potatoes, fruit, chicken, anything sweet or covered in honey and syrup) and doesn’t love (hamburgers, bacon…WE CAN’T BELIEVE IT!  WHO DOESN’T LOVE BACON!?).

He contines to “talk and talk and talk and talk”.  We still aren’t sure what he is saying, but he definitely knows what he’s talking about.  He is a bright little boy and learns things very quickly.  After showing him how to do something once or twice he has got it down!    We are so thrilled to have him home in time for Christmas and we are looking forward to celebrating as a family of three this year and creating some new traditions!!


A lot of you have asked how you can help.  Thanks to so many of you, we have a closet full of diapers, toys galore, lots of clothes and plenty of sippy cups 🙂  Which brings me to the part that is SO uncomfortable for me.  I do not like doing this one bit…but what we really need is help with our fundraising efforts to cover the expenses of his adoption.  We were able to cover all of our travel expenses (plane tickets, hotel, supplies we needed while in AZ) thanks to many of you and your generosity, but we now need to begin fundraising to cover the over $30,000 we paid for the agency fees, legal fees, birth mother expenses, etc.

I have created a fundraising Facebook page (here is the link:Facebook Fundraising Page)  that you can like and share with all of your family and friends.  There are many ways you can get involved!  I will be having an online auction (here is the link: Online Auction) for some of my collegiate crocheted items just in time for this arctic air that has moved in.  We will also be launching our Adopt an Envelope Fundraiser Event (all the details on the Facebook Fundraising page and another blog post to follow later this week).  I will also be doing another t-shirt order for those of you who missed out and still want a t-shirt(click here for info: Adoption T-shirt Fundraiser)!  As always you can check out our Want to help? page by clicking on that link.

We love you all and are so glad you have joined us on this journey!  We still are still in awe of the fact the Lord has answered our prayers and that we now have a son!  I find myself constantly crying tears of joy and offering up prayers of thanksgiving.  We always knew the Lord had us walk a difficult road to becoming parents for a reason.  We knew there would be a beautiful chapter in our story.  I NEVER in a million years would have guessed the plot twists the Author of life had in store for us, but He led us directly to Sebastian and we know it was His plan ALL ALONG.  Praise be to Him!

(Oh, and P.S.  now I am listening to the most precious little snoring 🙂 )


Adoption T-shirt Fundraiser

Beauty for Ashes T-shirt

**UPDATE** Now that we have brought Sebastian home you can help us make him a part of our family by purchasing one of our fundraiser t-shirts?! We will be selling the shirts for a few weeks and I will be ordering after the first of the year.  Feel free to share this info with your family/friends/Sunday School class/co-workers!  We will sell to ANYBODY, ANYWHERE!  You can read about the meaning behind the shirt below or skip to the end of the post to check out ordering details.

OH MY GOODNESS YOU GUYS!  I am so excited about the way this t-shirt turned out!  We will be selling these t-shirts as a way to raise funds for our adoption.  More details on how you can purchase one in a minute (or you can skip directly to the bottom of this post), but first a little backstory on the shirt…

One of my favorite verses is Isaiah 61:3:

To all who mourn in Israel,
    he will give a crown of beauty for ashes,
a joyous blessing instead of mourning,
    festive praise instead of despair.
In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks
    that the Lord has planted for his own glory.

I love the imagery of this verse and the hope it promises.  One morning, shortly before Asher passed away, this verse was in my devotional.   As I read the words I became a blubbering mess.  I knew that we were about to be reduced to ashes and that we would be mourning the loss of yet another son.  However, this verse showed me that God had a promise for us:  He promised we would receive a crown of beauty from those ashes and that we would one day be praising festively instead of mourning.  I feel that this verse has been applicable to our lives on SO many different levels, and just one of the ways is this adoption.  We feel that this adoption will be a crown of beauty (our new baby) for ashes (the losses of Taylor and Asher), and that once we meet our son or daughter we will joyfully praise him for blessing us with a child!

(Our Road to Adoption link)

So, that is a little explanation of why we chose “a crown of beauty for ashes” to be on our adoption fundraiser t-shirt.  Now onto how you can own one of these shirts!

  • We do not place large orders and keep the shirts on hand.  We have to have exact numbers from those who want a shirt and then we place an order…so don’t miss your chance!
  • It is a navy, nice and soft t-shirt (they are SUPER soft!). 
  • The shirts are available in youth and adult sizes.
  • The t-shirts (adult and youth) are $20 each.
  • We will be pre-selling the shirts for a few weeks.  I will place the order in early January.  The company will then ship the shirts to me and I will distribute them as soon as they arrive.
  • Send me a Facebook message, comment on Facebook or the blog to let me know the size(s) you need.
  • You can make your donation a few different ways:
    2. Via check sent to-
    Hope Davis
    P.O. Box 2436
    Madison, AL 35758
    3.  You can pay in cash/by check directly to JD or myself (or someone who will see us)

Sweet Home Alabama!


WE ARE HOME!!!!  After spending the last two weeks in Arizona, we were able to return home yesterday (December, 13th)!  Here is a look at what we’ve been up to:

In Arizona

The last two weeks or so have been some of the best of my life, but also some of the toughest.  I have LOVED getting to know Sebastian and we have played and played and played.  However, hotel living with a toddler is quite challenging.  By the end of our two weeks we both had a major case of cabin fever.  There were days Sebastian would cry/whine when we would walk up to the door of our hotel room…and honestly, I felt the same.   I will say that Arizona has AMAZING parks and we park hopped a lot to get out and stretch our legs.  We also took a daily stroll to either Wal-Mart or the mall and of course spent a lot of time at Target.

JD returned home on December 6th and Sebastian and I braved it alone for about the next 5 days.  Over the course of the week we found out that we would be meeting with Sebastian’s birth mom and also some of his other extended family members.  We received clearance to come home last Friday, but we stayed in Arizona over the weekend to meet with Sebastian’s birth family.  JD flew back out to Phoenix early Sunday the 11th so that he could be there for the meetings.  On Sunday we met with Sebastian’s birth mother and it was a good meeting.  My heart aches for this young woman as she not only placed Sebastian up for adoption, but shortly after also placed his 5 year old sister.  Please pray for her as she processes through the grief of being separated from her children.  Then on Monday afternoon we met with Sebastian’s grandmother, aunt and cousin.  This was a HEART-WRENCHING meeting.  They were blindsided by the birth mother’s choice to place the children up for adoption and were forced to say goodbye against their will.  It was one of the most emotional experiences of my life.  Adoption brings such joy on one end, but on the other there is immense loss.  We have promised to maintain steady contact and will make sure that Sebastian grows up knowing his 5 year old sister as well as his birth family.  I cannot put into words how quickly I fell in love with this little boy so I can’t even imagine the pain his extended family is feeling right now.  Needless to say we are processing through a wide range of emotions.

The Trip Home

So yesterday was our return trip and I was quite nervous about how it would all go.  Since JD flew back out to Phoenix last minute we were not able to get him on the same flights as us…he actually flew a completely different airline than us and flew into a different city.  He was however able to be there to help with all the luggage at the airport which was a HUGE relief.  I had been stressing out about how I was going to return the rental car, lug two suitcases, a car seat and a toddler into the airport.  Luckily I just had the car seat and the toddler!  Since this was Sebastian’s first flight and I have only known him for about 2 weeks I was VEEEEERY curious as to how things would go.  We got the 3 hour flight over with first, praise the Lord.  We had a window seat and he kicked the seat in front of him played for about 30 minutes before he had a total come apart.  He, like most toddlers, fights sleep and did not want to give in to a nap.  After about a 5 minute (which seemed like an ETERNITY) tantrum he finally fell asleep and napped for about an hour and a half.  Once he woke up we watched some Elmo’s World to pass the time until we arrived in Atlanta. We then had 3 hours to kill in Atlanta…I am exhausted just thinking back to those 3 hours.  I was dripping sweat as I toted all of my carry-on toddler gear around while chasing Sebastian or pushing him in the stroller.  Knowing the window seat on the flight to Huntsville would not be a pleasant experience for anyone involved we went and talked to the gate agent.  Bless her soul, because she gave us the last row of the plan all to ourselves.  It was actually a fun and enjoyable flight and Sebastian won over all the flight crew and got spoiled with lots of cookies and apple juice.  We survived the trip home and boy am I glad it is in the past!

Back Home in Alabama

We got home about 5:00 yesterday evening and had a good first night at home.  Sebastian loved running around and exploring the house.  He was a tired little guy and went to sleep easily and slept really well.  Today we played a lot with our new toys (although, we enjoyed the mixing bowls and tupperware much more) and made a grocery run to pick up all his favorite snacks.  I pray he continues to do well and feels comfortable in his new home!  We are so happy to be back just in time for Christmas and cannot wait to settle into our new routine as a family of 3!  We are overjoyed and beyond grateful for the opportunity we have to be his parents and we cannot wait to share with him all the amazing ways God worked in order to bring us all together as a family!

Checking in…


I just wanted to write a quick post and let everyone know how we are doing.  We are getting settled into our routine here in Arizona and praying for clearance to travel back home SOON.  We received clearance from Arizona today and now just have to wait on Alabama to clear us so we can travel across state lines.

Little Sebastian is absolutely thriving!  He is currently snoring away as I write this.  Everyday more and more of his precious little personality comes out and we have enjoyed learning all about each other.  He loves to cuddle, dance and to “talk and talk and talk”.  We have no clue what he is saying, but oh boy is he saying it with conviction.  JD says he is preaching…which is EXACTLY what it looks and sounds like 🙂 .We are staying in an amazing location with lots of parks and fun activities!  One of our favorite outings is to the park to swing and feed the ducks, but we also enjoy lazy mornings in our pjs in our hotel room.

Sebastian definitely has a fear of abandonment so we are doing everything we can to make him feel safe, loved and secure.  We are not sure what language he has been around so we have been speaking English to him and I also have been speaking Spanish to him.  We can see his interaction skills improving every day and it so much fun!  Please continue to pray for his heart and that he can sense the security and love from us.  Also, that a peace would sweep over him- although he is a happy, spunky little guy I know there is great sadness and loss that he is processing through.  He has moments where he cries and I know it is more than just a toddler tantrum.  It comes from a place of great heartache and grief…which is totally understandable based on his experience.  So please cover him in prayer and pray for us as we help him work though this grief.

JD had to return to Alabama yesterday to go back to work.  While I am so glad he was here and got to bond with Sebastian, it made for a looooooooooong night of missing dad and wondering where he was.  Please pray we get clearance quickly so we can get home and all be reunited.  I know Sebastian is struggling with JD being gone and I hope we can settle into a new normal soon…just before it is all thrown into chaos again when we head home to Alabama.

For now we will continue chugging along in Arizona!  Thank you all for all your prayers and support!  We could not have done this without you guys!  Love you all!


It’s a…BOY!

So the last week or so has been the most wild, crazy, hectic, chaotic, AMAZING week of our lives!  As I type this I am sitting in a hotel room in Phoenix, AZ waking up after an evening of playing with OUR SON!  So, I know a lot of you are thinking, “whoa, this came out of nowhere!”…well join the club!   It has been a whirlwind of an adventure and a story that could ONLY be written by God himself.  So, before I get into the details here’s the most important detail of all- We are adopting the most precious, adorable, cuddly, curly headed little 20 month old boy named Sebastian!

You read that right…a 20 month old.  Shocked?  Me too!  When JD and I started this whole process we went into it thinking we would be brining home a newborn.  It is after all the reason we decided to adopt domestically instead of internationally.  We were a little intimidated by the thought of bringing an older child home and wanted to start with an infant for our first child…don’t you love how God does exactly what He wants to do regardless of what we plan for ourselves?!

So fast forward to the last month or so when JD and I decided to apply to a new agency after months of inactivity on the adoption front.  Our consultant, Susan, strongly recommended Adoption Choices of Arizona so we decided to fill out the paperwork and sent in our application and see what happened.  Well, after my initial conversation with Liz from the agency I KNEW we were in the right place (side note:  you guys, if you are in the process of, or think you might want to adopt, give them a call!  They are amazing!).  We sent our application in on November 7th and actually presented to a birth mother on November 9th.  This particular birth mother made the decision to parent so JD and I continued in our waiting game.  Then, on Friday November 18th I got the phone call that changed my world FOREVER!   The agency was calling with little to no details about a 20 month old little boy they were in the process of picking up…I did not know anything about him or his situation, but instantly I just FELT this was my baby.  After talking with JD we let the agency know we were interested in more details and on Tuesday the 22nd we got those details and saw our first picture of Sebastian and it was O.V.E.R.  He was heavy on our hearts and we decided to move forward and present our profile as one of the potential families to adopt Sebastian.  We got the official call last Saturday and since then things have been going non-stop!

I CANNOT even begin to put into words all of the ways we have seen God’s goodness and sovereignty in even the smallest of details over the past week.  I could write for HOURS upon HOURS detailing all the incredible things He has orchestrated in order to bring us here.  I am so overwhelmed by Him and what He has done I do not even know where to start so let me just say this:  TO GOD BE THE GLORY!  HE IS GOOD!!

We arrived in Phoenix yesterday and at around 4:00 PM yesterday we got to meet our little boy!  He has been in cradle care with, Jessica, one of the directors of the agency and so we went over to her house to meet him in an environment he was familiar with.  As I drove from our hotel to her house I knew the Lord was with us and that it would all be fine, but there was a small part of me that feared Sebastian would see us and start screaming/crying/running away from us.  Y’all, I can hardly see the computer screen right now through the tears I have in my eyes reliving how INCREDIBLE our first moments with Sebastian were.  God was ALL over that meeting!  As soon as Jessica opened the door Sebastian saw us and smiled the biggest smile and IMMEDIATELY reached out for me to hold him.  JD and I were able to spend the next few hours playing, cuddling and giggling with Sebastian!  If everything goes well today at our transitional meeting we should be able to bring him back to the hotel with us and start our lives together as a little family of 3!

I know things will be crazy over the next couple weeks as we all make the biggest adjustment of our lives…I cannot believe I am going from no kids to a TODDLER!  I will try and find time to post updates, but right now our priority is Sebastian and doing everything we can make him feel safe and loved.

Here are some ways you can pray:
1.  Prayers of thanksgiving!
2.  For Sebastian as his world continues to change-from being with his birth mother, then going to cradle care, then to a hotel, then back home to get settled in.  This is A LOT for such a little guy so please pray protection over his heart.
3. JD and I as we learn how to be parents…of a toddler! 🙂
4.  The legalities of the adoption
5.  That we would obtain ICPC clearance quickly so we can return home without any significant delays.

A lot of people have asked what they can do to help, right now we have the basics and what we need thanks to our AMAZING family, friends, church family, co-workers.  Once we get back and settled in I will let you know what we need and I will also be launching some new fundraising events to help us cover the costs of this adoption!  Right now we just ask for your prayers

Over the last few days there have been two things constantly running through my head.  First, as I try and comprehend everything that has happened (not just this week, but over the course of our journey to parenthood) the lyric “God blessed the broken road that led me straight to you” has been on repeat in my head.  That could have been my whole blog post as it sums up my feelings PERFECTLY.

Also, as we have ventured down a road we never even imagined I cannot help but be reminded of Isaiah 55:8-9:

“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord.  “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.  For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”